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  • And the First Shall be Last

    Apparently I never posted the first improvised toe-up sock.  For Shame.  In fact, they were still languishing in the bottom of my knitting bag, never even worn.  Double Shame.

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    These were finished in February. And now that I've discovered them again, I've also discovered that I did post them on my general blog, but I never linked that post back here. And I never added them to Ravelry.  Those omissions have been hereby been rectified.

     

    Again, I can't identify the yarn, although I am certain that I intended to save that information.  I know they are mostly cotton with just a touch of wool, a yarn my mom bought hoping to knit socks for herself, before discovering that they had just enough wool that she couldn't knit with the yarn, much less wear the finished product.

     

    I had a little trouble the first time around with these, the shaping was slightly different at the toes, than when I knit top down.  It is possible that, had I consulted  a pattern, the process might have been easier, but I was in the mood to just knit to fit and see how things went.  The result was a few miscalculations and some practice ripping out and reknitting.   In the end they are acceptable.  They are a little loose around the heel.  I changed the number of short rows in the second pair, the two halves are not symmetrical, and if you look closely you may be able to see that in the photo.  Then again you may not.  On me this modification truly enhanced the fit, but whether that is completely due to my modifications or the higher wool content of the yarn in the second pair I really can't say.

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    These socks are nice.  But I really prefer wool, which somehow manage to always be warm enough without being too warm or too damp no matter what the weather.

  • Toe Up Socks

    The second pair of my basic, lets wing-it, toe up socks is finished and I am very happy with the results.   There is nothing like a mindless basic that is easy to knit and provides instant warmth and a sense of coddling when on the feet.

     

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    The socks are the same length, the measure the same next to each other, and I do count rows.  Obviously my impromptu modeling and photography skills are not up to par, but nevermind.

     

    The yarn is by Regia.  I don't remember which yarn and I don't have the label.  I believe I even told someone I was using Zitron Trekking, which is completely wrong.  

     

    I haven't blocked them yet.  They went on my feet immediately after binding off the last stitch and the tail is hanging out inside the cuff of the sock,  I will have to take care of that later.  And blocking will even out the little stitch rows, but I am happy regardless.

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    There's just something nice about hand-knit socks.  Kind of sad it took me so long to realize that.

  • Socks

    Spending a fair amount of time lying down with an ice pack at the base of my spine seems to mean that my feet are always cold.  And I've found that wool socks are the best antidote.  I'm cycling through my collection of handknit socks rapidly these days.  

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    I had hoped to finish this pair yesterday, but yesterday did not rate highly for focus and concentration.  So I dithered, finishing them up in the wee hours, during a booming thunderstorm, with the final few rows rounding out my breakfast entertainment.  Just in time for happy toes. Photographic evidence to the contrary, they are actually the same length. 

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    These are the second version of my basic, pattern-free toe up sock, and I got the niggly little details perfected here, at least for me.  I am happy with the socks, so happy that I  literally pulled them onto my feet as soon as I bound off the last stitch.  The tail on the sock on the right foot hasn't even been woven in yet.  I'll do that later today before they are washed and blocked, at which point the little stitch lines showing the gaps between my dpns will disappear as well. 

     

     Next up will probably be a scarf, but I am so involved in reading Churchill and America, that I may not start until tomorrow.  Fascinating book, poignantly filled with quotes from Churchill's letters and speaches.  The struggle and the emotion are palpable.  

     

    This has been basically reposted, with a dearth of additional technical information, over at purlsandmurmurs.

     

  • Reading In Bed Part Two

    My reading slacked off somewhat this past week, and I spent more time idly looking at this or that or doing not much of anything.  I think it was time well spent, this lollygagging, so I have no particular complaints.

     

    I did spend some time just listenting to music.  A friend brought by a recording of the Brandenberg Concertos  because she knew I had missed the two-night performance of the complete cycle as I was already confined to my bed, and I was grateful to lie back and just listen in comfort.  I also discovered radio David Byrne and spent some very happy time listening to a playlist of new, at least to me, music.  I seems I had been so busy and so focused on other things that I had forgotten about the pleasures of just listening to music, and not just classical music, but popular music, music where listening to the words is an important part of the beauty of the songs, such as in the songs of Mark Kozolek (Sun Kil Moon).  I was also particularly taken by the beauty of the songs of Anna Calvi, both artists previously unknown to me, and whom I will now seek out. 

     

    My reading material was basically of a light nature.  I started out with two non-fiction books, neither one difficult but then realized that my focus was waning and settled into a slow, contented reading of light fiction.

     

    The non-fiction books were Malcom Kendrick's The Great Cholesterol Con,  which is filled with lots of information but is also written in a very fun, entertaining and accessible way.  I don't know that there was a lot of material in the book that I hadn't read elsewhere, I started doing a lot of research on diet, cholesterol, fat and so forth after reading Good Calories Bad Calories a while ago, and have become a pretty regular reader of certain medical and scientific journals related to those subjects ever since.  But Kendrick pulled the information together in a way that I felt was particularly accessible and I felt he made his points clearly without going overboard on either polemics or numbing the general reader with too much data.  I would say it is a very good introduction to an important subject and should be read by more people. 

     

    Then I read Anthony Colpo's Whole Grains Empty Promises, which I believe only exists as a kindle edition, because it was being offered free of charge when I downloaded it,  although I believe the price has goine up to $2.99.  The book was worthwhile for the extensive notes and references to the research, which make up a significant part of the short book.  But aside from that it was easy to read and Colpo did an excellent job of explaining why whole grains are not necessarily the be all and end all of great nutrition.  His information is based on solid research. Given his research I can understand the antagonism toward the establishment view that pushes whole grains, but even so I found his writing to be overly sarcastic and inflammatory.  I wish his tone had been more measured. 

     

    About this point I was finding it harder to take notes or underline passages in books, and was also feeling less inclined to read anything I had to think about it much detail, so I decided to move on to light fiction.

     

    Next I reread The Princess Bride by William Goldman.  Now I first read this book my freshman year in college.  It was already a couple of years old by then, but this was long before the movie came out and I can say this, much as I love the movie, and even though the movie is really quite true to the fairy tale part of the story in the Princess Bride,  the movie has just a shadow of the depth of the book.  I love this book, it always makes me happy, but it is so much more than a swashbuckling, fairy-tale romance.  I lvoe the way Goldman frames the story within another story and the way that framing story uses the fairy-tale to tell a far more profound story of why books matter, and what we learn from them, how they shape and expand our views of the world, and how that world shapes us as he interlayers stories of publishers, aspiring jewish writers and the ways and ridiculous spoofs of fairy tales and so many of the common dreams we all hold dear.  If you think about what the story actually says, it can really make you question all those basic assumptions about love and happiness, good and evil, and yet at the same time, the story can be extremely satiric and questioning while still leave me feeling profoundly happy.  Kudos to Mr. Goldman.  I've read this book probably 5 or 6 times in the last 38 years, every time I read it I find it both more absurd and more profound, and it always leaves me ridiculously happy.

     

    Next up was Lunch in Paris by Elizabeth Bard.  This had been on my list for a long time and I don't know why I never got around to reading it because it was really a lovely and charming story.  I like the way the story interleaves the discovery and interweaving of a new love, with the story of moving to a new cutlure and finding one's adult path in life.  The author skillfully blends the sense of isolation of finding one's path in a froeign culture and alone in a new environment with the completeness of the romantic relationship, and she also skillfully navigates the ways in which one comes to terms with knowing oneself and sorting out one's fantasies of life in order to get at the kernel of what is true.  I suppose there is more I could say, but put simply, it was a delight. 

     

    I read The Replacement Wife by Eileen Gouge primarily because a friend recommended the author.  I thought it was pretty good but annoying too and in the end I found it sad.  I started out thinking I would like the protagonist, Camille Hart, but quickly thought she was far too self-satisfied and a good bit on the over-controlling side as well.  There was a lot of miscommunication between the characers and damage that could have been avoided had they just been willing to talk to each other.  The basic point of the story is that when Camille learns that her cancer has returned and has metastasized, she decides she is going to die, and she also decides that she needs to find someone to take her place for her husband and her children before she dies.  But she gets to control who she chooses, and she wants him to accept her choice, but not get too involved at the same time.  In short she is working from her head, and from her own unresolved issues surrounding her mothers death when she was 14 and unresolved issues with her father arising from that same event.  In the end everyone gets hurt.  Yes the husband behaves childishly also, but I am more inclined to forgive him because I don't see from the story that Camille every understands the way her actions  felt like a complete betrayal of trust to him.  In the end, she lives, they get divorced, and the husband remarries.  It seems from the story he learns something about himself and about openness to relationships, and Camille seems to grow up a little but she still seems somehow to have missed something critical. Maybe I jut took the whole thing too seriously. 

  • Weekend Meanderings

    A few days ago, when I was writing my last blog post, my mind was filled with plans about what I would be reading next, I had neat stacks of materials at hand:  books, kindle, laptop.  The organized stacks still surround the bed, but somehow, even though there is less physical distinction between my week and my weekend, the weekend was spent in more frivolous pursuits.  Well, I did read some of the papers, but perhaps not in as much detail as I should.  Apparently I just let my mind wander, dabbling in pursuits as I felt so inclined, playing around on the computer, watching the play of light and shadow on the ceiling, dreaming of possibilities rather than fretting about the future. I enjoyed some time encouraging a friend's 5 year-old granddaughter in a bit of dress up play, had a lovely lunch with another friend, knit a little, but not really more than a row or two.  And here I am, on Monday morning, rambling along with nothing really to say. 

     

    I suppose some of my computer play was of a useful variety, searching out possibilities for a summer trip, but I actually spent a significant part of my time on various life-style websites, looking at pictures of food, reading recipes and dreaming of cooking again. I have always loved to cook and altthough I do cook for myself, of late it has been a very simple and utilitarian kind of cooking.  Food must be eaten, and I'm rather particular, so I'm much more inclined to cook than to just grab something. But sharing food with others brings a sense of nourishment that eating alone can't equal. So it may be a good sign, this interest in food.  Perhaps it means I want to be social again.  Perhaps my rekindled interest in cooking is a reflection of a rekindled desire to share.  Maybe I am ready to look at myself as sharing in the world instead of looking at myself and the world as separate entities, existing in bubbles that may touch each other but remain forever isolated.

     

    Or then again perhaps I just have been in bed too long.

     

    Or maybe this is all just part of the winnowing process.  Too much independence is not so good. Too much isolation is not so good.  I like having people around, I like companionship and conversation.  I don't have to shut the door.  But too much busyness is not so good either.  I do need that contemplative time.  I want to do everything and I know I can't.  I've always known that, but I've also always struggled with this inner whirling dervish that just wants to run toward whatever has captured my attention at the moment.  But too much spinning around makes me dizzy; I break down and everything stops.

     

    Patience.  It always comes back to patience and pacing.  They are related.  Why hasn't that truly sunk in before now?  

     

    The last time I was an independent person, with no one I was sharing my life with, no one I was sharing expectations with, I was in my 20s.  At that time in my life, early spring always seemed like a transformative period.  Perhaps the dreariness of winter would lead me to a period of introspection and spring would bring with it some sort of transformation or awakening to some new realization or understanding of myself in relation to the world.  Of course I was young and finding my way.  Now I am no longer young but am once again finidng my way. Spring and rebirth is a good metaphor for this ongoing process of renewal, as is Lent and Easter. To some extent its not the actual words that matter, although there are specific meanings and patterns in the traditional timing of feasts and fasts, of celebrations.  Intention however, does matter.  

     

    This year I gave up cursing at other drivers for Lent.  That may sound strange but it is a habit and not a good one.  I don't get made at people I know or see personally, but other drivers are just that — others — in another vehicle.  It is easy to dehumanize them and associate them with their vehicles, to not think of them as people. And I believe that even such a small step of dehumanization is an ugly trap.   I'm not a perfect driver either.  We all get distracted, we all have worries, we all just want to stop going and get someplace where we can just be.  I've been successful so far, I haven't cursed at a driver in weeks, but I'm not sure that this is due to any conscious effort on my part but just that when I was driving I was more focused on just driving and getting myself home safely and comfortably.  My focus was on the moment, and my main thoughts when they strayed from the road were more likely to be "please" as in "please just get me home".  Now this is more extreme than I would hope would be normal, but I am hoping it is the interruption in the normal chain of thought that is important here, that once interrupted, the old patterns will not so easily be resumed.

     

    I'm not in any bigger of a hurry than anyone else.  I'm not more important than any other driver on the road.  If I'm late, it is my own doing and I could change.  But it is easier to blame others, outside forces, easier to condemn others as a way of comforting ourselves. Buckminster Fuller said "God is a verb".  According to the Old Testament, God is "I AM".  Well so am I.  I am.  Perhaps it is true that I can never "be" in the fullest sense of that word; I probably cannot even imagine what pure being would entail.  But I also can't imagine what "I am" would be like if I let myself just be present and atuned to the world and people around me at all times.  It may be impossible.  But it seems that we humans have trouble with the present tense of life.  We remember the past, perhaps hold on to it a little too dearly, and we worry about the future way too much.  When I am cursing other drivers I am not really fully there in the moment, I am usually thinking of something else, thinking of where I am going, what tasks are on my "to do" list, fretting about having enough time.  Perhaps I just need to learn to relax. 

     

    Perhaps what I am really doing is trying to spend less of my life worrying about who or what I will be or what I will do and more time just being present and aware in the moment. And this is where I get back to browsing the interweb, and pinning pictures of food, and clothing that inspires me and makes me want to sew.  That sounds all kind of aspirational doesn't it?  And it could be.  Once upon a time, not that long ago really, when I was not happy about the changes that were taking place in my life,  the internet was my escape valve, an avoidance technique.  I was looking for something that was missing in my life, but I wasn't willing to do the necessary work that would enable me to actually get anywhere. It was like standing under the lightpost looking for your keys even though you dropped them 50 feet away in the dark.

     

    This weekend, that was not the case.  There has been more connection and intention in my electronic meanderings. Yes I clipped, yes I pinned, tweeted and checked Facebook.  I sent a lot of emails. But I didn't dwell on it.  I accept more things.  I asked questions.  That looks good. Would I make it? Yes? No? Do I want to remember it?  Why? Do I care if I do it tomorrow or in 20 yeas or never?  Does looking at this picture make me happy, remind me of something important?  Or does this make me feel like I'm not enough, that I need to do or be something else? Does it let my imagination soar, or does it chain to false expectations? I do far less frittering on the internet than I used to, and I am far more intentional in my browsing, far more aware of the conversations I am having with myself. 

     

    And yes I did save recipes that I may or may not ever make.  I don't really care about that.  But I do like to look at the pictures, imagine tasting the dishes, knowing that someday what I've seen and imagined will materialize in something I do or make on that particular day, and that experience will be shared with others.  And I hope I am paying enough attention be present and enjoy it when it happens. 

  • Reading in Bed

    Here I am, propped up in bed today, with my computer on my lap, which means I can actually write something.  I'm going to have an epidural in a week, and am very much looking forward to it.  In the meantime, I am taking it easy, and reading a lot, well,  maybe not that much, but it is all I have at the moment.  Books are piled all around me, along with my laptop,  kindle, and my cell phone so I can talk to people and while away mindless hours playing games —  really there is nothing quite like a vacation filled with books and idle distractions.

    Here's a brief rundown of what I've read so far.  

    Hidden by Katherine McKenzie was a book I picked up as part of the Kindle First program.  I'm all for free reading, especially if I don't have to drive to the library to get it at the moment.   It is not a bad novel, and I enjoyed it, sort of.  It didn't really capture my interest and I found none of the characters compelling. The  story is about a man who dies suddenly, and the interlayering of his reminiscences with those of his wife and another woman with whom he has an intense relationship has a lot of potential.  The problem for me was that the individual voices didn't really seem that distinct, and the characters were not fully developed, although perhaps that was the point.  They all seemed like unrealized people who just happened into their lives through no fault of their own.  I felt no emotional connection to any of them. 

    Next up was The Voice of Silence by Oonagh Shanley Toffolo which I enjoyed.  It is a simple book, a simple story of a life, and nothing is fleshed out in great detail.  Yet it has a simple calmness and clarity about it, which I felt said a great deal.  I found it satisfying, perhaps more so than had it been more greatly mired in gritty detail or endless spiritual exploration.  

    After this I read The Shack by William Paul Young.  This is a book that came out a few years ago and apparently got some attention in Christian circles, but I was basically unaware of its existence. I read it because several people in a discussion group I participated in talked about it and how it helped them with some difficulties in their lives. Having read the book I now have a better sense of what they were saying.

    That said, I have to talk about this book on two levels. First of all the author is not a writer. It is not well written. The wording and phraseology is awkward and terribly clichéed.

    The novel is about a father who has lost his young daughter to a serial killer, is wrapped in grief, is seriously injured in a automobile accident, and has an encounter with God that restores his faith. It is clearly based on the principles that seem to shape some near-death experiences. It is also clearly written by someone who has struggled with loss and faith and is trying to share his story.

    I can in fact see how this book has angered many and also helped many, and I have no interest in getting involved in the discussion of Christianity, humanism, universalism, heresy etc. etc. that this book plays into. I felt the discussion of the Trinity was quite good, but there are many areas that are theologically weak, to say the least. It is thought provoking if one is inclined toward thinking about the topic of God and/or the meaning of life and the nature of forgiveness and restoration. It is also a work of fiction, not a work of theology. The author is telling a story, not telling people what they should believe. Strict adherence to truth is not the purpose of good fiction. Through story we are lead to open our minds, perhaps think, perhaps see the world a little differently. If the story helps some people with their own issues surrounding faith, so be it. They will perhaps move on and seek out further sources. If the story makes you recoil in anger and frustration it may still be a success if it forces you to face your anger and define your frustrations. Some of the books that have had had the strongest impact on me have been books which elicited strong feelings of anger and frustration.

    I am inclined to say that I believe it is not my place to tell anyone what they should believe, that we humans have a very spotty record when it comes to judging, and we should therefore best avoid it. Sometimes we find enlightenment and understanding in the strangest places, in the least expected places, even in wrong-headed places. This is one of the gifts of humanity. All I can say about that this book is, if one is thoughtfully or spiritually inclined, and capable of getting past the many short-comings of this book, there are quite a few profound insights that may make you think and reflect and question what it means to be a better person. And I suppose I believe, that for me, those insights transcend all the other failings of the book.

    Lastly, for this post at least, I read Dr. J: The Autobiography, by Julius Erving which I found to be gripping and fascinating.  The book is written in an almost stream-of-consciousness style with each chapter of his life existing in the present tense, which can be confusing, except that I find that Erving's voice, and his thoughtfulness is really emphasized by this style.  It seems like an honest and thoughtful reflection by a man who has lived a life defined by extremes in some sense, a man who is prone to thoughtfulness, and who has managed to stay true to himself, admitting to both his strengths and his flaws.   

    And that is enough for now.  Expect more. 

  • A lark Contemplates the Inconveniences of Life

    On Saturday, Lisa, over at Privilege put up a post about being a morning person.  I am a morning person.  I wake up before the dawn, really not so hard in Tennessee where the sun seems to rise so late.  It is in the early moring that I miss NY the most, those 6 AM walks in my garden, cup of coffee in hand…. but I digress.

     

    At least I am basically, by nature a  morning person.  I awake early.  I jump out of bed with a glad cry.  And by mid afternoon I am already beginning to fade.  When George was alive, I called myself a nap person.  Naps were  my way of coping, of bridging the gap between my inner lark and his inner owl.  I thanked heaven that my working day usually ended earlier, that I had time for a brief nap between the business of work and the business of home, but still, more often than I care to recall, I fell asleep on the sofa my head on his shoulder or chest —  safe.

     

    But that is not that my point either.  My mind wanders. The problem now is that I am but a shadow of a lark, a morning person wanna-be.  I awaken early.  Such is my nature.  I lie in my comfortable bed, I stretch, I imagine the world as it should be, full of promise.  Then I try to stand and my world is shattered. We think I have a problem at S1, a herniation really.  My doctor probably knows by now but I do not.  I had an MRI last week, but I won't know the results before Wednesday.  We anticipated that I will have a cortisone injection and once I can manage the pain I can begin to heal.  My life is never without back problems, it has not been so since I was 10 years old and was diagnosed with scoliosis.  I am grateful for my life.  I have done well, I have been blessed. But this is different from anything I have experienced so far.  Yet I know I will survive it.

     

    Please remind me of that statement early in the morning when I am struggling to cross the kitchen floor.  Suddenly, I am not a morning person…. or I am a morning person imprisoned.  My brain and my soul rejoice in the morning yet my body is not convinced.  I lie in bed dreading that first step… will I scream in pain?  Will the 20 feet or so to the kitchen, the cat bowls, and a new ice pack, the symbiosis of drugs that help me cope, that maintain the myth that I can actually function, be hell on earth, or merely tolerable disomfort?  It is  not my nature to worry so.  For the last two weeks, a normal morning means that it will take me 2 hours just to contemplate being able to stand long enough to take a shower. There I am, mentally wide awake and ready to dance around the earth welcoming the dawn (even thought technically dawn isn't even awake yet) and my body is still clinging to the bed.  And yet I know there are people who are worse off.  I have a new appreciation for pain, for the things pain can drive people to do. I can even understand the horrible choices that people are sometimes driven to make.   

     

    For my morning-person self the worst part is the evening.  My brain is beginning to shut down, my inner worry-wart is slowly rearing his ugly head, and my body, which took so long to wake up in the morning, is not yet ready to get comfortable for the night.  It doesn't matter if I was up, or if I spent the day resting….the body is not ready to wind down, even though my brain is fading and is begging for respite.  So I lie awake praying for pain free sleep. 

     

    Who knew this could happen?  Surely not I?

     

    This is not actually a complaint.  It is just what it is.  Here I am writing this post, late at night, late for me anyway, although I will post it in the morning, living a life that is me and yet simultaneously is not me.  What am I to do?  I have been blessed in my life in so many ways, although I admit I have not always seen it as such.  I am blessed now.  People are willing to help me.  I have hope.  I cannot imagine not having hope, and yet such is the life so many must endure. I drove someone to church on Sunday, even though I was initially unsure as to whether I would be able to walk into the same service.  I delivered a meal.  These small things bring grace, and make everything worthwhile.   Today I am able to sit.  I am able to type this post.  I haven't yet figured out a way to write when I am flat on my back, but if that were my only option I am sure I would find a way.  So much of how I understand who I am depends on my ability to write it down.  

     

    Here it is, late at night, and I realize that there is no point to what I am writing.  I have no conclusion, no denoument as it were.  So I will say it again.  I am blessed.  I have friends.  Long ago when I lived in NY I was in the hospital for a week and no one wrote me or emailed me, no one called, no one came by.  I was not particularly ill, and although I was there for a reason, it was mostly for obsevation.  No one wanted to bother me.  Here people email.  People call.  I am lucky to have found this place, these friends, friends I wouldn't have thought possible.  Perhaps I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. So this is what I ask.  Pray for all those people who don't have people who email or call.  Pray for those people who don't feel loved, who don't feel hope.  If you don't believe in prayer or God, think of them anyway; they need your thoughts, your psychic karma.  In the end it doesn't matter if you are laid low by chronic pain or a hangnail, if you can't walk to the freezer, or if your boyfriend forgot to call.  We all suffer.  We all need love.  Share the love. 

     

     

     

  • Ender: Fear, Manipulation, Responsibility

    MV5BMjAzMzI5OTgzMl5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTgwMTU5MTAwMDE@._V1_SX214_This weekend I finally watched Ender's Game.  I had been waiting to see it, having missed it in theaters, because I wanted to read the book, a book about which I had previously been, perhaps blissfully, unaware. 

     

    I'll start by saying that I don't think I would have enjoyed the movie more if I hadn't read the book.  Although the movie stays remarkable close to the story, it really just skims the surface and for good reason. In summary, the world is in dire straits and the only solution is to use computer games to train brilliant children to become commanders in a new army and thereby save the human race.  And yet the movie falls flat.  The special effects are somehow not special enough.  Asa Butterfield is too old to fully capture the power, and the horror, of Ender Wiggin, who should be much younger.  But then the abuse and struggles that 6-year old Ender Wiggin faces would not make a popular film and neither would the thought of a 10-year old destroying an entire species.  The film's Ender is a kinder person than the book's, but his affect is also more flat.  We do not see the struggles that makes him who he becomes.  He makes friends too easily.  The adults argue that they can't afford to be soft, but there they are, hovering over every scene.  Even the shock of the ending, the revelation that they were fighting a real war, that Ender just annihilated a civilization, doesn't have the weight it should because the audience has never had the opportunity to feel what the characters supposedly feel.  We just watch.  "No!. The way you win matters!" Ender cries.  But he could be any adolescent, crying about any unfair battle.

     

    375802Of course, this is part of the appeal of the book to its primarily adolescent and young adult audience.  I can remember that feeling of being misunderstood and manipulated.  Ender is the innocent who is tortured and despised despite his innocence; he is despised for who he is.  No one seems to care, no one protects him. The adults let the bullies get away with bullying. He takes action, and he is absolved of all responsibility for his actions.  In this scenario, the fact that Ender is mistreated is evidence of his goodness and his gifts.  And in the end he overcomes all obstacles and is blameless.  How can this not appeal to the rough world of adolescent angst?  And yet this is precisely the problem with Ender's Game.  Its morality is a stunted, juvenile morality.  

     

    Ender is a highly gifted child.  He is also horrendously abused.  His parents are negligent.  His older brother, who shows all signs of being a psychopath, tortures him relentlessly.  He is bullied at school.  He is chosen to go to a military school that seems to function with the sole purpose of pushing children until they break.  Ender is the child they have been looking for, a child with tremendous empathy, but also a child with an overwhelming survival instinct. Colonel Graff's mission is to push Ender to breaking point after breaking point, until the survival instinct drives all his actions, to the point that he will destroy before he risks being hurt.

     

    The basic premise is laid out at the  beginning of the novel.  Ender was chosen, protected, wearing a monitor.  The monitor was removed and along with it his protection, leaving him open to the school bullies.  In the ensuing fight, Ender moves beyond merely beating his opponent, Stillson, to brutalizing him.  Later when Colonel Graff asks him to explain his actions, Ender replies:

    "Knocking him down won the first fight.  I wanted to win all the next ones, too.  So they'd leave me alone."

    This, of course, is the answer Graff is looking for.  Ender had to beat Stillson to a pulp because it is the best strategy in the only world Ender knows, a world where violence is the only recourse.  At the tender age of 6 Ender has no faith in rescue.  He has a brother who tortures him, who will torture him again, and parents who seem oddly unconcerned.  He does not see a world in which anyone will protect him because no one has protected him this far.

     

    And of course, this view of the world is shared by the Space Command.  Colonel Graff want to shape a young mind to pulverize the enemy without conscience.  The military command is still functioning on a rather childish, dualistic, level.  They were almost destroyed by an alien species.  They see their only option as destroying the enemy before it can come back to destroy them, and they are going out of their way to do just that, to perform the interplanetary version of beating the bully to a pulp so he could never hurt them again.  They do not question the fact that the enemy has not returned.  It never occurs to anyone that the "buggers" might have made a mistake.  That they might not have originally realized that humans were intelligent, or that, having made that discovery, they might not attack again.

     

    "We did not mean to murder.  When we understood, we never came again. We thought we were the only thinking beings in the universe, until we met you, but never did we dream that thought could arise from the lonely animals who cannot dream each other's dreams. How were we to know".

     

    So the military uses their own fears, to manipulate Ender, to play on his self-loathing, his fear of being destroyed.  They don't let Ender's innocence or good qualities surface and Card intensifies and plays up this dichotomy in ways that are unsettling.  They make him into a killer, but claim he is still pure, still good, because he did not know he killed.  

     

    This raises several rather profound questions, doesn't it? In fact I find the book tremendously unsettling and thought provoking. Although the book is not difficult, and I suspect it can be ready simply without extended reflection, it can draws upon many emotionally and ethically complex issues.   It is also an extremely powerful study of violence, of military conflict, of strategy, and the extent we can allow manipulation to run amok under the guise of military necessity.  It is a damning statement of the many ways we let our fears build walls which separate us from and dehumanizing those we see as "the other", and the way we use fear to justify our actions.  There are, after all, reasons we encourage soldiers to see the enemy as "gooks", "towelheads", or "buggers".  It is very difficult to kill Ali, the little boy who was in your scout troop and whose dad owned the deli down the street, but not so difficult to kill some anonymous "other" who is somehow less than yourself.  But just as Colonel Graff didn't care what happened to Ender once the war was won, we don't really worry ourselves too much about what happens to our soldiers after they've come home from war.

     

    When Ender learns that he has destroyed the buggers in reality, not in a game, he has a much more visceral reaction than the movie Ender:

    "I didn't want to kill them all.  I didn't want to kill anybody! I'm not a killer!  You didn't want me, you bastards, you wanted Peter, but you made me do it, you tricked me into it!" He was crying. He was out of control.

    "Of course we tricked you into it.  That's the whole point," said Graff.  "It had to be a trick or you couldn't have done it.  It's the bind we were in.  We had to have a commander with so much empathy that he would think like the buggers, understand them and anticipate them.  So much compassion that he could win the love of his underlings and work with them like a perfect machine, as perfect as the buggers.  But somebody with that much compassion could never be the killer we needed.  Could never go into battle willing to win at all costs.  If you knew you couldn't do it.  If you were the kind of person who would do it even if you knew, you could never have understood the buggers well enough."

    "And it had to be a child, Ender" said Mazer.  You were faster than me.  Better than me.  I was too old and cautious.  Any decent person who knows what warfare is can never go into battle with a whole heart.  But you didn't know.  You were reckless and brilliant and young."

     

    Do Ender's actions shape him and what he becomes?  Who is to blame? Is he innocent, as this passage seems to claim, or does he bear the responsibility for those he has killed?  Card seems to gloss over any sense of resolution Ender finds at the end.  Forgiveness is mentioned and with that forgiveness comes a renewed sense of responsibility.  But it seems the afterthought here, whereas for me, I would think it would be the primary focus. 

     

    Since I read Ender's Game in January, snippets of news, fragments of conversations, keep bringing me back to the many questions raised by the book.  I am sure that some of my ponderings may not have been intended by the author, but that is one of the reasons I consider this a good book, it makes the reader question, even beyond the intended scope of the book, or its intended message.

  • Surprise

    I received a treat on Saturday.

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    Luscious bits of cocoa infused with cardamom, curry, and pimient d'Espelette.  

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    I had actually ordered these back in December, supposedly for making some hot chocolate.  But I had completely forgotten them, forgotten that they were backordered, forgotten what my intention had been.  But for now they are an welcome treat.  One small chocolate bauble is enough to satisfy that late afternoon chocolate craving, or to provide a comforting indulgence when I am mentally beating myself up for pushing too hard and doing too much.  As if constant sciatic pain and numbness is not enough punishment; self-blame and recriminations not only do not help, but probably hinder the entire process of healing.  Savoring a small bit of chocolate interrupts my my all too human focus on blame and punishment and lets me instead focus on the pleasures of the moment.

     

  • Interlude

    I've overextended myself once again and am undergoing a forced period of repose.

     

    In lieu of words, I present you with some needlepoint:

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    It amazes me how a photograph will show flaws that my eyes cannot discern in normal light.  So be it.